Weddings, by-and-large, are an expensive undertaking no matter how you turn and twist. Even with the most careful, meticulous budgeting, there are bound to be unexpected costs that pop up in the later planning stages. Nevertheless, most brides understand this fact and budget according.
The Internet is full of stories about crazy weddings, budgets, and bridezillas out there, but this one might take the cake. It begins with one Canadian woman and her fiancé who attempted to circumvent all wedding costs by using a rather unusual method.
A Love Story
Susan and her fiancé had known each other since they were 14 years old. Even at such a tender age, they thought that they were destined to be together. They fell in love at 18 and a few years later, he presented her with a $5,000 ring and a marriage proposal that she accepted. In their early 20’s, before the wedding, Susan became pregnant.
Focus on Career
Susan wanted to take some time to focus on her career and become financially stable before they tied the knot. It was prudent thinking — an unusual thing for her as you will come to realize as our story unfolds. They scrimped and saved and in time, Susan even got the degree she had worked so hard for.
They then saved up about $15,000 for their dream wedding. They started out by looking at more modestly priced options and venues. That is, until a psychic they saw prior to all this actually encouraged them to go for something a bit more expensive. They figured “Hey, we worked hard, we deserve this.” They were in love and ready to throw the biggest party of their lives.
They began touring some of the more expensive venues but quickly discovered their wedding would end up costing a bit more than $15,000. Wedding costs in the United States and Canada do vary, but it appears that the average price of a reasonable wedding in 2017 was about $34,000. Susan’s new dream wedding would cost them about $60,000; an amount they obviously did not have.
As plans began for the wedding, Susan began asking friends and family members for their wedding presents to be specifically cash. Many people ask for cash gifts, it’s a bit tacky, but not unheard of. Of course, most of them don’t ask for gifts, cash or otherwise, prior to the wedding itself. Obviously, the couple had some outrageous expectations.
Help Out, Please
“All we asked was for a little help from our friends and family to make it happen,” she wrote in a Facebook post following the ensuing debacle. Susan and her fiancé were essentially asking their friends and family to pay up front to attend her wedding. Their “plan” went about as well as one might expect.
Susan sent out invitations, asking each guest to contribute $1,500 to her wedding. She believed that this was a reasonable request. In addition, she specifically asked for a $5,000 pledge from her maid of honor and a $3,000 pledge from her groom’s parents. Originally, her maid of honor and future in-laws begrudgingly agreed to contribute those amounts.
A Bridezilla is Born
Though it may seem unsurprising to most of us that the majority of Susan’s guests did not agree to their ridiculous stipulation, Susan and her fiancé were shocked and incensed. Only eight of their guests RSVP’d with the requested funds. Susan was livid and took to social media to express her dismay. She had gone from bride to bridezilla in a matter of weeks.
Susan was about to get even worse news. Her fiancé’s family soon rescinded their promised offer of $3,000. One by one, each of her eight confirmed guests also took back their offer and their money. Finally, her maid of honor, Susan’s best friend since childhood, decided she couldn’t afford it either.
A Little Help From My Friends
“How was this supposed to happen without a little help from our friends?” Susan asked in her subsequent Facebook response. But sorrow quickly turned to rage. She became convinced that everything was everyone else’s fault but her own. She seemed completely unaware that she had asked far too much of her friends and family.
“Like, we made it CLEAR. If you couldn’t contribute, you weren’t invited to our exclusive wedding. It’s a once in a lifetime party,” she continued in her post. “We just needed a little push. Our dream wedding amounted to $60,000. … All we asked was for a little help from our friends and family to make it happen.”
Desperate Times and Measures
Determined to have the day they had dreamed of, Susan and her fiancé resent the invitations to their friends and family, asking them to give whatever they could. They couldn’t believe that everyone would “let them down” like that. “I mean seriously people, what is $1,000, what is $1,500, clearly not a lot,” she said, unaware of how petulant it sounded.
They set up a GoFundMe page but received a paltry $250 for their troubles. As far as she was concerned, this was nothing less than a direct insult from the people she had trusted her whole life. Realizing they would not be able to afford their dream wedding, Susan’s fiancé suggested tying the knot in Las Vegas.
The bride quickly shut down the idea, asking, “Am I supposed to get married in the heart of shady gamblers, alcoholics and the get rich fast fallacy?” Susan had a mini panic attack. With nowhere else to turn and time running out, Susan reached out to a close friend.
She called her maid of honor and told her to stick to her budget. “How could someone who offered me THOUSANDS OF F*CKING DOLLARS then deny me MY promised money and then tell me to shift down my budget????” Susan called her a poor excuse of a friend and hung up. The next day she found herself blocked on Facebook.
Threats and Backstabbers
Susan went on to discuss how she had received anonymous threats after that. She explained that her former maid of honor and bridesmaids began hanging out without her, and talking behind her back. As for her fiancé, he kept staying out later and later. Their relationship was falling apart just as fast as their dream wedding had.
As expected, four days before the now-diminished wedding was to take place, the couple called it off. Susan cited irreparable differences but believed that her former fiancé had been bad mouthing her to her former maid of honor behind her back. She added that the two will continue to remain civil and a team when it comes to taking care of their son.
Eventually, Susan posted a long-winded, expletive-filled explanation on Facebook. She blamed her family and her friends for ruining both her marriage and her life. “How could we have our wedding that we dreamed of without proper funding?” she asked the world at large. Eventually, the world caught wind of the situation and the story went viral.
An hour after posting her final status, Susan deleted her Facebook account, stating that social media had been nothing but a source of paranoia and toxicity. It seemed, however, that the world was not on her side. Everyone seemed to think that this selfish bridezilla was in the wrong.
Leaving on a Jet Plane
Luckily for Susan, she wouldn’t find out what the world thought of her until some time later. She had taken an impromptu trip to South America following the cancellation. She wanted to, as she put it, “Explore my soul and rid myself of the toxic energy brought about by family and friends; the ones I thought I could trust the most.”