What would you do if your teen vanished? Where could she go? Why would she go? It’s a worry that most parents share, one that keeps us awake in the middle of the night and makes us dread even sending our child off to school.
For one pair of proud parents in Florida, the concept of their daughter disappearing seemed like a distant nightmare. But when the day they thought would never come finally did, it came all too suddenly. Where was their little girl and how were they going to deal with it if she never came back?…
Growing up is hard and if anyone ever tells you otherwise they are lying and any time they say they aren’t lying they are lying about not lying. There is no manual for how to navigate life and make it through on a day-to-day basis. We have to figure it out and hope that the mistakes we do make aren’t all that bad
For most of us we have a guiding figure in life and if you think back hard enough I am sure you can picture that person in your mind. Someone older who may not be a parent but helped guide you on the road that you might be walking. These people are important to us and are supposed to steer us in a productive direction.
But if we are a victim to anything it’s almost always a mistake we made while lusting after someone and we never see what is happening to us until we are very far down the rabbit hole. Where is our guardian then? The person who is meant to guide us and steer us on the right path away from such dangers and bad decisions?
Far From Home
This was probably the same question that was asked by a Florida teen who found herself far in upstate New York near the border with Canada. Confused, trapped, not really sure what to do or how she even found herself in this place. What could have led her to this point and where was the person looking out for her? Parents? Teachers? Coaches?
Like many high school students, Caitlyn Frisina was trying to find her place in the world and started looking toward where she might end up once she left for college. For most teens, this is probably one of the most complicated and confusing parts of their lives. Exploring, branching further from home, discovering who you really are
Friends and Family
She had friends and family who supported her along the way. In that respect, she was a lucky girl who had everything going for her. She was a good soccer player too, and her coach was an influential guiding force in her life. Spending time together on the field as he taught her and the rest of the team.
Like many of us who have been involved on a sports team or playing any sport, the coach can be one of the most important person with whom we have a connection. They lead us in life and often act as our role model and someone to look up to, in some cases a bit more…
Real Role Model
To Caitlyn he wasn’t only her role model but someone she had developed a crush on. He was older, responsible, and was somewhat off limits. The perfect combination for a teenage girl to want and as the story ends up going, to end up with…. Even for a little while.
He was her coach, her mentor, her advisor, someone to guide her, and now also her lover as it would turn out. It is an adventure many of us have taken in life, partially because of the thrill of it, and partially because we know we shouldn’t make it even more exciting.
One night however as it would turn out, Caitlyn didn’t return home from school that day. When she didn’t appear the day after that, her parents who were now worried and called the police to report that their daughter was missing and that they couldn’t imagine where she had gone off to.
Police began searching for the lost teen. How far could the girl have gone? She wasn’t an unhappy teen, she got along well with her parents as far as anyone knows. It was a mystery and as the time ticked away, it was a mystery that wasn’t coming up with any answers or clues.
Nowadays though, it is truly hard for anyone to disappear if they aren’t trying very hard and on one of the many security cameras that line our country, Caitlyn and her coach were spotted having traveled from their homes in Florida across the Stateline into Georgia.
A day later the pair was spotted again having now traveled further north into the Carolinas, their destination appeared to be the north though exactly where they were planning to end their journey was at the time still unknown to both police and her parents.
Concerned, Caitlyn’s mother, Scarlett began to contact her friends to try and piece the story together about how she and her coach have now ended up in North Carolina and where they planned on going. To her mother’s dismay, one of Caitlyn’s friends informed her that the two had hooked up and were planning on leaving the country.
According to her friend, she was scared and wasn’t sure how she could end the relationship and get herself out of trouble. She was with someone who had authority and was lost as to how she could end the toxic affair. He had worked his way deep into her life by this stage.
Police began to search further and further north until local authorities in Syracuse, NY spotted what looked like the car that reportedly carried the two. Pulling them over on a traffic stop, police then arrested her coach and without any incident took him into custody
Police safely returned Caitlyn into the custody of her parents and at the news conference where it was announced she was safely returned home, the police chief commended her bravery for attending the conference standing between her parents and interlocking arms with her mother.
The county sheriff was quoted as saying that he believes the teen “was influenced by someone who was in control, was in a supervisory role. That shouldn’t be. She’s got a lot of growing up to do even though she’s a very strong young lady.”
Caitlyn’s parents are glad that she was found safe and unharmed and that nothing aside from negligence on the part of the coach happened to her. As for her coach, he is currently being held in New York having been charged with a misuse of his custodial authorities and has been relieved of his coaching duties.
It is almost a guarantee that mistakes will keep happening as she gets older with people she shouldn’t get involved with. Hopefully, she stays safe and continues to have friends who look after her when she falters and through each and every step she takes away a life lesson to move forward with.